Is forgiving someone or their actions an easy task? We can cut people out of our lives for causing us pain, but is this the best action to take? Forgiveness is a big topic, and can affect everyone differently. I don’t begin to think that I am an expert here, but I am interested and currently working through forgiveness too. These are my thoughts on The Act Of Forgiving: Tips How To Forgive.
Recently I saw a person from my past going into the cafe I usually go into and the feelings that flared inside me, took me by surprise. At one stage I believed this person had been unkind to me, I wont go into the details, but shortly after our grievance I had accepted the outcome from our acquaintance and had moved on….or so I thought.
What was surprising after seeing this person again recently – brought several emotions to the surface with my inner voice screaming:
“Why are you in my suburb? I don’t want to bump into you! I thought I wouldn’t see you again. You were forgiven in my head and that was that! Now I don’t want to see you again”
But if I had really forgiven them, then why would it affect me whether they were in my suburb or not? I think my forgiveness came from the idea “out of sight, out of mind”, but they are not out of sight…so I need a different tactic.
De-clutter
Forgive means to “Give up”
According to Catherine Ponder’s “Dynamic Laws of Prosperity”, she talks about forgiving others or yourself as a way to clear out negative thoughts, in order to make room for the positive.
It’s like you are clearing out your wardrobe of older clothes that don’t make you happy, to make room for the wardrobe you want. That’s a simplified way I see it.
Look on your grudge holding as something that is damaging to only you.
Why Is Forgiving So Difficult?
We’re told to forgive…but how does someone just forgive, it isn’t easy?
Sure, OK I forgive…
But do you really forgive?
Jeez I don’t know, I think I do!
It’s difficult to feel you have been wronged and to wish the person well after what they had done to you.
The person needs to see what they did was wrong and if you just forgive them then they will keep on doing this to others.
These reasons can linger within causing you to hold onto that grudge, with no end. Taking it with you to the grave, so to speak.
Holding a grudge damages the grudge holder.
The Act Of Forgiving. Tips How To Forgive:
Write down the name of the person you want to forgive. Be conscious of the words here, you “want to forgive” – it helps to be in that mindset.
Say their name aloud, then say the words “I forgive you”. Feel the peace that those words bring and visualise an imaginary string that has been tied to you both has now been cut.
Continue the process. Do this several more times until you feel free and have fully forgiven.
Recommendations
Catherine Ponder’s book “The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity” or for something quick, here’s a video:
What About You?
Have you forgiven? Have you any tips you’d like to share?
If you enjoyed this, have a look at my previous posts such a Learn How To Stop Taking Things To Heart
Till next time, dear reader.
CG
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