We can’t all be switched ‘on’ every minute, of every day, of every year for the rest of our lives. Sometimes we experience disruptions along the way – life gives us obstacles and when we are hit with them, it can be difficult to know where to turn. Where To Turn When You’ve Lost Your Way…I’m here to guide you as a friend.
If you have been reading my recent blog posts I have undergone some dramatic changes – deaths in my family and an abrupt relocation from one side of the world to the other, all with a toddler in tow! I feel each way I turn, there is a hurdle to get over.
Even easy things that once filled me with joy – no longer do. Instead I lack energy to do simple tasks. It’s as if I am stuck in mud and don’t know how to get myself out of it.
But as time goes on, I have been watching and listening to my body and emotions. I’m slowly taking a small step at a time and want to share if you are facing a tough spell too..
Where To Turn When You’ve Lost Your Way
Below are my tips and advice to help you when you feel stuck:
Keep Your Mind On The Good
Even in the dark times, it’s important to acknowledge the good in your life. This has given me direction, I see I have purpose, people rely on me and I give back also. The past few days I have been writing down all what I’m thankful for, and once I started this process – it’s come really easily.
Allowing your mind to focus on the good, helps you out of that funk.
Don’t Force Yourself Into A Direction
It can be tempting to just try to get back to where you were before. Putting all your energy into getting back to that place before everything went wrong. Sometimes this might work, but if you’ve had a knock from life, it may be at a crossroads you see yourself at now.
Things that were important to you before, might not be important now.
This time may very well be the beginning of a new chapter, a fresh start. And one that if you listen close enough, you might find an answer.
Do What YOU Want To Do Today
I decided I wanted to see the beach today, so I packed up the baby and spent some quality time with my brother. We explored the beaches and drove to places we weren’t familiar with – taking us both out of our headspaces.
By just doing something that I wanted to do, that was not part of my usual routine helped me re-focus and get out of the fog.
Reconnect With Your Surroundings
Go outside, breathe in the air. Be just you and nature. Even a few minutes of this helps your mindset.
Last night I took in washing from the line, just as the sun had faded behind the hills. The stars were already shining brightly above me and the geese that have migrated from Iceland, called one another in the quietness. I stood there in the twilight and thought, there is no place I’d rather be right now.
A sense of belonging hit me.
A Special Note – You Can Do This
This blog post is to give you permission to take a breath. Distractions are good to keep your mind away from despair, but if you are facing a time in your life that everything has been turned upside down – this is the time to be kind to yourself.
Show compassion to yourself. Be gentle. And if you can, be in the moment – experience the small moments. Little steps. Each day at a time.
Listen to your thoughts, your feelings. You are important, you are loved.
Something may come out of this time that you could never have imagined, something positive, beautiful and exciting. It will come, but right now – be kind to you.
If you resonated with this, look at my post – 5 Stages of Grief & Why You Shouldn’t Focus On Them
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