What is your own season of life? We will all be in different places in our lifespans that reflect the seasons of the year – spring/summer/autumn/winter. The solution is accepting what time you are in and not wishing for another. But how easy can that be? Being Happy In Your Own Season Of Life. It’s a time to let go & be mindful.
It’s natural to look ahead. Plan for the future. Look forward to what you want to happen. A house? A family? An exciting career? Travel? But what if you’re in an area of your life, say being a mother…and you desperately want to be fun and fancy free again? How can you get out of that mindset that you’re stuck and want to be somewhere else….?
A common feeling?
I have spoken with friends recently and the topic of feeling trapped arose. It’s something I have been thinking about myself and found it a coincidence that others around me are thinking this way too.
How I see it is that it’s a control thing. Maybe you sense you have no control compared with the options your younger self had. That younger version had infinite opportunities, time, space, freedom that you don’t feel you have now.. and that reality is frightening.
You may see your past through rose tinted glasses?
But can you think back to those times and remember how you felt when you were in them? You may not have even thought things were good, and instead what you wanted was just to feel settled, comfortable, content?
Some years can be quiet, others busy – isn’t that the beauty of life’s journey. We are in motion, but stages are varied.
My Acceptance
I am in the season of life where I feel I’ve been in autumn/winter for almost 2 years. My little one is just about to turn 2 next month…see the reason! Aside from the fact that I’ve been in the stage of mothering, I’ve also been grieving for about 3 years, with losing two family members, which is a slow road to recovery.
I have not wanted to be in summer for a long time, I have been happy in a way to accept where I am. Not that I was always happy to ‘sit this one out’. I loved doing things, exploring, experiencing, and meeting people. But honestly I’m comfortable that this is a season of my life, which I’ll not get back. I am not wishing it away. For me I’m not incredibly enthused to travel or go to the pub! But I know I will, and when my situation allows me to and I want to…then I will.
Being Happy In Your Own Season Of Life
Below are my thoughts on letting go of those niggling feelings of ‘what you can’t do’…and embrace what you can do to be happy in your current life cycle:
What can you do that you have control over?
Ask yourself this question – What can I do that I have control over? Whether it be a much needed break away to reset your batteries. Or sit down and realistically look at what free time you do have. No matter how small a window, is there something you can do that nourishes you? A walk outside, or sketch something..
It doesnt need to be everything or nothing atall. Doing small things that bring you joy and make you feel you again. It’s worth it. You’re worth it.
Journal it out
Do you feel irritable? Angry?
Then take a blank page and ask yourself “Am I worried about anything?” “Am I angry about something/or at someone?” “If one thing could happen today that would make me happy it would be…”
You may not realise what you’re feeling. Do you spend day-to-day just thinking of others and if their needs are being met? Sit down, grab a cup of something that you enjoy and take time to journal out what might be underneath everything. It may be just below the surface hiding in your subconscious.
Gratitude in the now
If you’ve read any of my posts, you will see that I recommend practising gratitude. Small moments throughout your day may be overlooked, but if you spend a few minutes everyday (morning or night) listing three things you are grateful for, it will help you to see more positivity in your life.
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Take care for now my love. Nothing lasts forever. Right now may feel it, but soon enough you’ll be onto the next stage, wishing you had taken the time to enjoy all seasons of our life.
Seasons come and go, you just make sure to check in with yourself. You are your own companion on your life’s journey,
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Have you resisted the season you are in? I’d love to hear what you do…
If you enjoyed this, please have a peek at my previous post – Don’t wait for your passion to grow, just pick something now!
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